Weddings are supposed to be a celebration of the union between two very loved up individuals, not to flaunt how many friends you have. You’ve seen what happens in the movie Bridesmaids; personalities clash, some girls become jealous, others can’t be bothered. Why put yourself through unnecessary stress inviting a gazillion friends to be a bridesmaid when you only need your closest to lean on (5 is a good number)? It’ll cut down the bridal party budget which means more money to spend on yourselves! Let’s face it, women are bitchy and if you’ve got so many friends in the bridal party, there’s bound to be one who may outshine you on your day. Uh oh. 

How to select your bridesmaids:
1. Choose friends that you turn to, who you call first whenever you have good news, confide in when there’s a problem and know they’ll be there for you and vice versa no matter what happens.
2. Just because you’ve known one particular girl friend for the longest doesn’t necessarily mean they’ve automatically gained the bridesmaid pass.
3. Although it’s etiquette to include those that’d invited you to be their bridesmaid, there’s no set rule for you to reciprocate. Do not feel guilty.
4. If you can’t help being that popular girl that has an infinite number of friends, narrow down your bridesmaids to a handful and explain to those who didn’t make the cut that they’re still one of your closest friends and allocate them with other bridal party tasks. Get them to do a reading, plan your hen-do or go dress shopping with you. Make them feel special and equal even though they won’t be wearing a bridesmaid dress.
5. Should anyone be offended that they’re not a bridesmaid and makes a fuss out of nothing, perhaps it’s time to rethink about their friendship and even de-friend them.

Too many?

Just right.