You’ve just been asked by your best friend to be her MOH. You’re over the moon and honoured to be her supporting rock throughout the planning process and standing by her side on the day but wait, you’ve also got to prepare a speech?! Traditionally it was only the Father of the Bride, the Groom and the Best Man who were given that daunting task but MOH speeches are becoming increasingly popular. Obviously if you’re a natural public speaker, you’re going to sail through it but if you’re starting to sweat and hyperventilate just at the thought of having to make that speech, here’s a few tips to get your creative juices flowing.
It’s important to get your speech written down so you’ve at least got a piece of paper to rely on and be your comfort blanket. The structure:
1. Introduce yourself. Just because you’re the MOH doesn’t mean everyone will know who you are.
2. Thank the couple for asking you to be part of the wedding party. They’re the very reason why you’re standing there in front of people you don’t know, trying not to shake and making sure everyone can hear you. Don’t forget to also congratulate them and how beautiful the couple look together!
3. Talk about your relationship with the bride, how you became BFFs and give anecdotes about her e.g. a funny story while you were growing up, a funny habit that she has, embarrassing stories about her (keep it appropriate because if you upset the bride, she can take your BFF status away instantly).
4. Say something about the groom. Be nice because if you’re single, he can hook you up with his friends. Otherwise, say bye-bye to your chances.
5. Comment about the wedding e.g. how beautiful the decorations are, how much you love the personal touches (if any!). Even if the decor is truly hideous (which hopefully is not the case), try to sound positive.
6. Say some words of advice to the happy couple, be it about relationships, starting a family or learning to compromise.
7. Congratulate the newlyweds again and wish them a happy marriage.
8. Finally end with a toast. Drink up.
This is an example of a good speech. Short, sweet with a dash of humour. Now start brainstorming.